Wednesday, February 18, 2026

Spalding Gray on My Mind

 For the past few weeks, I've been doing a deep dive into Spalding Gray.

I'm sure at some point in college I saw Swimming to Cambodia. I was too young when it hit the theaters to have seen it at the time. And I'm sure it didn't make a big enough splash in San Antonio, Texas for 8th graders to be begging their parents to go see it. 1987 was the year I saw Three Men and a Baby and The Secret of My Success. I saw Mannequin - probably my favorite movie that year - in the theaters several times. Eventually, Spalding Gray made it onto my radar, but it wasn't in 1987.

I saw his show Morning, Noon and Night live at the Alex Theater in Glendale, CA, April 16, 2000 as a birthday present. My godfather knew who he was and went with me to the show. Tickets to see Spalding Gray were a present I wanted in my early 20s. I don't recall a single story from it. I remember the tone. The storytelling technique. Spalding sitting behind his signature desk just talking.

All of his monologues carry the listener on an emotional ride with moments of levity and moments of deep emotion. He was a flawed person and for me that was something I could connect with, as a flawed person.

I didn't know a lot about him and hadn't seen much of his work when he took his life several years later. I enjoyed what I had seen and felt the loss that there wouldn't be more. And then time seemed to forget him.

I've been writing a monologue, thinking of him as the guru of monologues, revisiting his work. When people ask what I'm working on, I say, "something like Spalding Gray," and almost no one knows what I'm talking about. "Who is that?" "Show me his picture, maybe I'll recognize him." "Sounds boring."

I'm surprised by how niche he is. You should go watch something of his. YouTube has a lot of material available.

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